Seemingly perfect relationships are not always what they appear to be. The popular belief is that if partners want to stay together, a happy ending is guaranteed. But, alas, this is not always the case in real life.
We at Bright Side believe that sometimes it is worth asking yourself whether your partner is the right person for you. According to most psychologists, there are 6 telltale signs of something working poorly within your relationship.
1. Constant Quarrel
Many people tend to say that "lovers’ tiffs are harmless." But if quarrels become an everyday occurrence, this might be a sign for you to take a serious look at yourself and your partner. The line between a lovers’ tiff and something more damaging is very thin.
You must try to think in perspective: what will become of you after a few years? You should, once again, paint a mental picture of your future with that person and ponder on how it fits with your concepts of family and love.
2. Jealousy Is Not Love
We often hear that the more jealousy there is in a relationship, the stronger the love is. But, in reality, this isn’t so. Jealousy is destructive and must be kept under control. There are many things in life capable of bringing people closer together, but jealousy can easily destroy it all.
Jealousy is really an indicator of our lack of inner confidence. To escape the pain this deficiency of self-confidence brings, we transfer it, targeting our loved ones instead. Jealousy has nothing to do with love. But it has everything to do with dependent relationships.
3. Signs of Indifference
Body language never lies. When we are dating a person who is physically attractive, we show all the signs of being infatuated, even if we do not control them. We touch our hair and blush.
But the signs cannot stay the same all the time. Nevertheless, they give you a good opportunity to see if the person is still in love. If the body language shows indifference, it means that your partner is colder to you than he or she used to be.
4. Distance
A situation where your beloved goes away to study or work in another country is, most often, extremely harmful to the relationship. After just months of separation, the mental image you have of your partner becomes if not faded, then blurred. No amount of chatting via Skype or Viber nor all the emails in the world can replace living together. And even if your love survives, your relationship is practically doomed to failure.
5. Doubting your Choice Constantly
It’s okay to have moments of doubt in a relationship, to give in to cowardice from time to time and get a little bit nervous when contemplating the possibility of marrying your partner. But, in a healthy relationship, time always helps to reduce your doubts and fears. The longer you’re together, the less room remains for anxiety.
If you feel persistent doubts, this could be a signal that something is amiss in your relationship or in your inner self.
6. Incompatible Goals
"Opposites attract." Surely you’ve heard this phrase many times. But life often decides differently.
You’ll only be able to build common plans and enjoy happiness together if your outlooks on life coincide. Of course, it’s impossible to find someone whose priorities completely match yours. But you must have largely similar views on such subjects as household planning, distribution of roles within the family, bringing up children, education, and moral values. If your opinions differ radically, it’s no use deceiving yourselves
Take a good long look at your partner: is this really the type of person to build a serious relationship with?
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